Probably one of the most memorable first dates I ever went on was with a guy who took me to — wait for it — a high school band competition.
The competition itself was sort of interesting, but I hardly knew this guy. What could we even talk about with a backdrop like that? Not to mention, it was outdoors, freezing cold, and my date didn’t even bring a coat. The poor guy was shivering; I felt sorry for him. I offered him the detachable lining of my coat, which he happily wore, even though it wasn’t very flattering.
It’s not that band competitions are that bad, it’s just that for a first date? It just doesn’t work.
And if you’re thinking of taking that special someone on a first date, there are plenty of other places to avoid. Here are our top 10 places to avoid on a first date:
- A wedding. Just don’t do it! A wedding is a festive time for friends and family and to celebrate the couple getting married, not to bring a first date. A lot of the time you have to be quiet, or hit the dance floor, or wait in line for food. the whole atmosphere is a little daunting. “So… what do you think about marriage?” Um, no.
- Your parents’ house. Sure, you love mom and dad, but you know what they’ll say if you bring a first date to their house. “How did you two meet? Is it serious? What a nice young man! You should see her baby pictures…” Mom and dad always mean well, but let’s face it, they’re not the best setting for first dates. Better to bring someone home when you’re fully committed.
- A work party. It’s hard being single and trying to think of who to bring to a work function; best to leave that to a long-time friend than a first date. It’s not conducive to getting to know each other, and besides that they’re being introduced to a bunch of other strangers they’ll never remember or probably will never see again. Talk about awkward.
- The beach. Most people aren’t super excited about putting on their swimming suits and Bay Watching-it with a first date. Eventually you’ll get there, but try to be fully clothed on a first date so you can focus on getting to know each other, not feeling self conscious.
- A loud concert. You could probably get away with going to Josh Groban or something, if your date is a big fan. You’d be sitting next to each other enjoying beautiful music together, and it might spawn some romantic feelings. But loud concerts? Um, no. There is just no opportunity for connection there, since you’re jumping around being crazy the whole time. Save it for when you’ve already been dating for a month or so.
- Roller skating or ice skating. Please, just avoid this. I will spare you the details, but this venue just spells disaster. I will say this: There are two kinds of people in this world, those who can roller or ice skate, and those who cannot. If you both ARE, then save it for like the second or third date. It involves a lot of touching and you want to make sure you feel comfortable with each other before venturing into that arena.
- Church or some religious event. If religion is a big part of your life, then at some point you’ll want to introduce your significant other to it. But please, not on a first date. There is just too much pressure and emotions about religion itself that can really make it awkward for the other person. Save it for when your date is ready.
- Dare devil activities. Stuff like bungee jumping, or anything that involves great heights or feats of strength or danger in any degree…. yeah, not great first date material. I never want to go into a first date wondering if I will come out alive. Keep things on the safe, level ground, people.
- Camping. Actually, I highly recommend camping for those who are eventually going to get married because you can see each other at your dirtiest and most tired. But that’s for those who are committed. For a first date — forget it. It’ll just be weird. Sure, the campfire will be fun, but waking up in the morning with wild hair and smokey clothes is just not how to impress a first date.
- Dance clubs. Not everyone knows how to dance, and even if they do a dance club is just loud and where people are looking to pick up other people. It’ll be really loud and hard to talk, and do you really want to put your dance skills on display? Go to a dance club with a group of friends, not a first date.