Whether you’re a newbie or a veteran to the online dating world, it can be an interesting place. It’s sort of like navigating a maze, or a labyrinth, or a black hole. Sometimes you jump in and aren’t sure if you’ll find your way.
Don’t worry, we all feel that way from time to time.
While you’re on your journey of online dating, it’s important to pay attention to what you might be doing wrong in order to make it a more pleasant experience and hopefully get you to where you want to go.
Here are 10 simple online dating mistakes to avoid:
1. Being too selective.
It’s ok to have high standards, but some things aren’t deal breakers, they’re just personal preference. What if the perfect person for you is just barely outside your selective search? Widen your net and you could find someone amazing.
2. Not being very exciting.
People get online to find dates because it can be exciting. Well, what if your username is boring, your profile photos and summaries are boring, and when you chat you just give one-word answers? Be more engaging. Find the most interesting things about yourself and promote them. Make it fun! Read our article about funny online dating profiles for ideas.
3. Waiting for others to talk to you.
Why wait? If you want to talk to someone, send them a message. If they don’t respond, then just forget about it and move on. It’s really that simple. If the person replies then start chatting! Get to know them and see if you guys connect.
4. Only trying ONE dating website.
There are tons out there! Why limit yourself? Once you get to know the ropes of the whole idea using one online dating website, why not try another? Maybe something completely different this time. There are tons out there. Check out our page of online dating site reviews by country.
5. Only using “free” versions of online websites.
Maybe you figure if you don’t find “the one” with your free membership, then it’s ok, because you aren’t out any money. But what if you were more likely to find someone best suited to you with a paid membership? Even just short-term to try it out? As they say, no pain, no gain. Think about the mindset of others who are paid members—they want to get the most out of their online dating experience. Do you? We’re not saying go to every site and pay—definitely be choosey—by just give it a try. Many of them run promotions throughout the year.
6. Being to personal before you should.
We have become an online world, so we tend to get used to talking to strangers online without another thought. But remember that you don’t really “know” this person yet. Don’t ever give our personal information they could use to steal your identity or stalk you. Be safe out there. Read our article about online dating scams.
7. Never changing your profile photos.
Do you still have the same photos on your profile that you uploaded when you first opened your account? It’s time to change them. Make your profile fresh and keep it updated regularly. It will definitely get more traffic. Need photo taking tips? Check out our article of 5 photo tips that will triple your views.
8. Putting too much emotional energy into the process.
You win some, you lose some. It’s that simple. But it’s possible that along the way you are putting too much weight into who is or isn’t talking to you. Ask yourself this: if that cute guy didn’t respond, did it ruin your entire day? Sure, it’s normal to feel let down for a bit, but if it’s affecting other areas of your life for long periods of time, then you’re investing too much emotional energy into online dating. Take a step back and gain some perspective.
9. Giving up.
Have you ever wanted to just throw your phone or computer across the room? We know that online dating is tough. It hurts sometimes, especially when it seems like you have a connection, but then the other person rejects you. It happens, unfortunately, just like it does in real life. So should you give up? Never! If you are feeling discouraged, read our article about how your online dating efforts will be rewarded.
10. Never transitioning from online to real life.
Isn’t the point of all this to actually meet a real, physical person and go on a date? Yes! Then remember that goal while you’re getting to know people. Need some help? Check out our article Stop the Endless Emailing and Go on a Date!
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