The first message that you send to someone will determine whether they look at your profile, or just delete it.
An opening message should have a killer subject line that grabs their attention with a vice like grip, and ideally be no more than 100 words long. Now is not the time to write your autobiography.
Opening messages like “Hey whats up” won’t work unless you happen to look like Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie.
Make it personal by referencing small details from their profile (images/text). This lets the recipient know you’ve actually looked at their profile in some detail, which many people don’t. Inject your personality into the message, and be sure that it mirror’s what you’ve written in your profile.
First impressions count, and your first message is an opportunity to stoke your desired date’s curiosity. Don’t bore them senseless, bombard them with sexual innuendo, net-speak (ur, u, wat), bad spelling and grammar, or send them cheesy virtual gifts. Mention what you have in common and give them some really good reasons to message you back.
Here are 3 excellent examples that I spotted recently on Muddy Matches Blog.
1. You Made Me Laugh Already!
“Hi James, I really like your profile and you made me laugh with your comment about the kind of girls you usually meet. I’m not too into the tangoed look myself, but I do usually have a tan in the summer from being out in the field with my horse. You mentioned that you’re learning to ride, have you had many lessons? x Suzie”
2. What Breed Are They?
“Good morning Donna, I thought I’d get in touch as we have so much in common and you seem like a really nice girl. You mention that you have two dogs, what breed are they? I’ve got a springer called Tess, who’s always running around and a tabby called Cookie who sits by the fire all day. They say pets are like their owners and I guess I’m a cross between the two. All the best, Jon”
3. Have You Ever Tried Lawnmower Racing?
“Hi, how are you? You mentioned that you’d like to hear from tall, dark, sporty men, so I thought I’d get in touch. I’m a little shy of 6ft (I hope that’s tall enough), I’ve got dark eyes, dark hair and a tan from working outside as a landscape gardener. I’m pretty sporty, I play rugby for my local team and enjoy lawnmower racing (I blame my brother for getting me into it). You said you like rugby, do you ever go to any matches? Our team could always do with a few more supporters, if you fancied coming to watch one day? 😉 Charlie”