No celebrity is on the front page of the dating scene more than singer Taylor Swift. And why not? She’s successful, cute, and gathering material for her next song.
It seems as if the hot celebrity men are just lining up for a chance to be her next significant other. Maybe it’s her charm, or maybe they want to be her muse for an upcoming song.
With as much dating experience as Taylor has (there are even websites devoted to her dating life, with charts of who she has dated and when, and which of her songs are rumored to be about them), maybe there is a thing or two she can teach us. Here are 4 things we can learn about dating from Taylor Swift.
1. Dating is Hard for All of Us.
Hopefully it gives you a little comfort to know that even for a pop star like Taylor Swift, dating isn’t easy. Relationships require time and energy, and given her hectic schedule, that’s not something she has to give right now. It’s no wonder her relationships typically only last a few months.
Maybe you aren’t a pop star yourself, but you probably feel the same emotions she does. So buck up. Realize that dating is hard for everyone. There are successes and there are failures. But, we are all going through it, and it’s ok to feel the pain sometimes. We promise that someday, it will be worth it. Or at least, there will be a new Taylor Swift song written about a break up you can cry to.
2. Don’t Drag It Out.
As we can see from how quickly Taylor goes from first date to break up, she realizes that it’s not worth it to drag it out. Sure, being in a relationship can be fun. But why stay with someone you aren’t going to be with forever?
Spend your time looking for someone who completes you. Once you know your date is not the one, it’s time to move on. You gave it a fair chance, but you two just aren’t meant to be. Try not to complicate it–try to be ok with it. Remember to live for the moment, like Taylor.
3. Learn from It.
“I knew you were trouble when you walked in…” Isn’t this song great? Taylor can reflect on her relationships like no one else. We should all be doing the same thing, too.
Not a song writer? No problem. You can still mull over your past relationships and get real about the good the bad and the ugly. While it’s not always pleasant to remember your exes and why they didn’t work out, take a hint from Taylor–revisiting your old flames can help you figure out what went wrong, so you don’t have to repeat it. Instead, grow from it.
4. Don’t Be Afraid to Try Again.
Taylor gets a lot of flack for how short her relationships are, how many she has had, and how quickly she goes from one to the next. But you know what? She doesn’t care what other people think. She’s unapologetic about her love life. Maybe because it is HER love life, and no one else’s.
While heartbreak can be inevitable in the dating world, hold onto the big hope that you will find the right one for you. You never know when that will be, so never give up. Don’t be afraid to be like Taylor, and just keep on trying.