Fall is coming soon, and that means many college students will be heading to class and hitting the books. As they are studying and walking around campus, they’ll also be scoping out each other.
Dating while in college comes with the territory. College students are finally out on their own, away from their parents, and they’re of the age where looking for love is on their minds 24/7.
The thing is, college life is busy enough. With so many classes, studying, and tests (and maybe a part-time job), how the heck are you supposed to balance all that with dating?
Here are 6 tips to help:
- Schedule Blocks of Time. If you want to do well in college but still have time for dating fun, schedule out your week by blocking out times for different tasks. Classes are obvious, but also schedule definite study times–perhaps while you’re already on campus. Then schedule your down time where you’re not allowed to study. These are prime dating times.
- Kill Two Birds with One Stone. You gotta eat, right? Other people you might want to date gotta eat too, right? Why not combine the two? Meeting for lunch or dinner is a great way to date but not cut into class or study time. You could even cook for each other–even if you are learning while you go.
- Connect Wisely. At some point you’ll want to spend a lot of time texting or IM’ing potential dates or those you’ve been out with, which can cut into important study time. Set parameters, put your phone on Do Not Disturb, or do whatever you need to do in order to protect your study time. Once that study time is over, you can text and IM and meet up to your heart’s content.
- Date Off Campus When Possible. Being a college student can get overwhelming sometimes. Obviously, you need to spend time hitting those books. But you also need a break. You need time away from everything that reminds you of campus and your major and…. just go. Take your date and go off campus. It’ll help you recharge while getting to know someone.
- Be Honest with Yourself and Your Date. If you feel overwhelmed, figure out why. Is it because your grades are suffering? Or is it because something is amiss in your love life? If the person you’re seeing is feeling ignored, tell them the truth, although tactfully. “I’d love to spend lots of time with you, but I’m really stressed about this class. Can we meet up on Friday night?” That can help strike a balance but also help your love interest feel like they’re still a priority.
- Remember that Everything Can Change. You might change majors a few times, and you might date quite a few people. Try to keep it all in perspective. College is a great time to experiment and try different things. So keep an open mind on all fronts. Go where your passions are. If your passions change, then change your course. All’s far in love and college!