You’ve both arrived, dressed to impress, a little jittery from excitement and dread. You sit down and have ordered your food. Now what? As if a first date wasn’t nerve-wracking enough—now you have to think about something to talk about?
Talk about pressure.
Don’t despair. At Date Nurse, we are here to help. On a first date, don’t fumble over your words. Have these 7 questions in your back pocket. They are general so your date will feel comfortable answering them, but also inquisitive so you can learn more about her. Who knows? Maybe you’ll have some things in common.
- What is your favorite food?
This is an easy question to start with, since your first date probably involves food in some way. It’s only natural to comment about it. Does she prefer salty or sweet? A snack to a full meal? Does the food remind her of a fond memory, or is it all about flavors? The answers to this question can tell you if she is an indulgent or conservative person.
- If you could travel anywhere, where would you go?
This is a great question, because it leads to where your date has already traveled, which tells you a lot about her, and it tells you about where she wants to go, literally and figuratively. Is she adventurous? Is she a dreamer? Is she passionate about life? Encourage her to tell travel stories, which can also clue you in on her personality and priorities.
- What is your favorite movie or TV show?
Whether sci-fi, comedy or romance, the main idea of the movie or TV show and the types of characters are what you want to focus on. You’ll know she’s fun-loving if she goes for pure funny, or maybe tender hearted if the movie’s story was sentimental or a little sad. Perhaps the movie reminds her of her own life a little. Which character is her favorite and why?
- Do you think you’ll live where you grew up?
This will prompt your date to talk about the pros and cons of the city where she grew up, and maybe a few clues about her childhood in general; in this way you can see if she looks at life positively or negatively. If she is able to laugh about some of the negative things, you’ll know she is being honest but still fun loving. It’ll also spark the idea of where she might live when she settles into a career or family.
- What did you do for fun in high school?
From sports to clubs to after school parties, your date should have a fun time talking about the glory dates. But this question can also explore your date’s sense of balance. Did she spend all her time on the soccer field, or did she play piano also? What did she and her friends do for fun? How a person spends her time is very telling. But cut some slack, because we don’t always make the wisest choices when we are young; what matters is we have grown from it.
- What is on your Bucket List?
Getting out of the past, this question leads into your date’s present and future life. What really matters here is that she has actually thought about or made some goals. If so, then she believes in her own power in her life. Does she dream big or is she very practical? Does she have everything mapped out, or does she leave some things to chance?
- Who is your best friend in the whole world?
Perhaps it is a high school chum or a sibling; typically people are best friends with those they are able to share things in common with, but also complement each other in their differences. What is important to listen for is how your date talks about her best friend. If she’s animated and happy to talk about her best friend, you know she has people in her life she cares about deeply and who care about her, too.