Finally asking your woman of interest was no small feat. But now that you’ve got a date set up, you’re in a panic. Just what will the two of you even talk about? Will it be awkward? Will she just get bored and want to call it a night before things even get started?
Stay calm and read on, my friend. Women are actually pretty easy to talk to, if you know what to say. Here are 7 things women want to hear on a first date. Also remember to treat others how you want to be treated Martina Sajkova.
- Compliments, Compliments
Especially on a first date, it can be hard to break the ice and get the conversation going. She’s likely feeling a little uncomfortable and not sure what to say. Take the pressure off by giving her a compliment. Start with a compliment on her physical appearance. Say you like her dress, her hair—anything really. Just make sure you are being sincere. Later on in the conversation, compliment her mind and/or personality. Say you think she is smart, or kind, or anything that comes to mind. When she gets home from the date, it’ll be one of the highlights she remembers.
- Follow-up Questions
As she is talking, it’s very important to her that you are listening. The best indication that you are listening is asking follow-up questions. Try to make them thoughtful rather than just general. For example, if she tells you that she works at a particular office, ask some questions about her job. If she tells you about a movie she saw recently, ask her specific questions about who was in it, what it was about, etc.
- Whatever She’s Interested In
Whether you’ve scouted her online dating profile, social media profile, or noticed some themes while talking to her—now is the time to bring them up. Talk about whatever she is interested in, such as her pets, where she has traveled, her hobbies, her favorite movies, etc. She’ll have a lot to say about those things, making for great conversation. You’ll also win points for noticing and wanting to talk about them with her.
- All About You
Women live to connect, and on a date she’ll definitely want to get to know you. So be open about yourself. Be positive, honest, and let her in on who you really are. Don’t be negative, or approach the awkward subjects like politics, religion, how much you hate your boss, etc. Talk about your typical day, what you love about your job, your passions in life, etc.
- Something Funny
Keep things light and humorous. Make funny comments in response to things she says. Make some funny observations. Try to just let it be natural and not forced. Be sure to keep it appropriate! Keep your humor positive and don’t bring anyone down. If you can make her laugh, you’ve got it made.
- Inspirational Life Lessons
You can certainly talk about daily happenings on your first date, but don’t let be the only thing you talk about. Get a little philosophical for a little bit. If you tell a story about something that happened to you in the checkout line at the store, also add in a little nugget of wisdom or a life lesson. It’ll help your date realize how you think and your overall perspective on life.
- Hopes and Dreams
What’s on your bucket list? What if money were no object? Those are great questions to ask your date, and also great questions for you to answer. Who knows? Maybe you’ll have a few answers in common.