You may be wondering what the heck I am doing signing up for an OkCupid account. If you’ve read some of my other posts, including this one: How to Know When You’ve Found the One, then you already know that I have met the man of my dreams.
The reason is I am doing this for YOU. To help you know what to expect, so you feel less awkward (well, at least less awkward than me) if/when you sign up.
Full disclosure: I am a happily married woman, and I told my husband what I was doing. Signing up for a fake OkCupid account so I could tell you all about it. Because if I can do it, so can you.
Here’s how it went.
SIGN UP: OkCupid.com. Sign up was as easy as any other thing you sign up for. You need a birth date, a zip code and an email address. You do have those, don’t you?
USERNAME & PHOTO: Next was surprisingly hard. I mean figuring out a username that WASN’T taken. All my go-to usernames were, of course, totally gone x 1,032. Why is a username so important, anyway? Because besides your picture, that is the first thing people will see on your profile. So make it memorable! Make it something that says something about YOU. Think of it as your “personal brand” on this particular dating website. No pressure, right? SassQueen and BraveheartGirl (I was told once that I look like the girl on the movie Braveheart) were both taken, so I settled for BraveTacoGirl. I think it’s pretty descriptive AND memorable. Also, guys love tacos!
This was also the point at which you are supposed to upload a photo. I elected not to do so, since this is a fake account which I will delete as soon as I’m done getting basic info for YOUR benefit. Obviously, you’d want to have a photo ready before signing up. Here are some tips about profile photos on our blog post: “How to Make Your Online Dating Profile Stand Out.” If you are looking for love, you definitely need a photo. Your chances of getting messages will increase SIGNIFICANTLY. Do it now!
INTRO EMAIL: At this point I received an email from OkCupid welcoming me to their site. Well thanks, guys! The email includes a few tips on how to complete your profile.
10 RANDOM QUESTIONS: I like that these are asked one at a time and have big, colorful buttons. So it makes it kinda fun. You also don’t have to type anything, just click Yes or No. It asked things like, Are you a morning person? Could you date someone who is super messy? Do you like the taste of beer? So basically, some really funny questions, and then some really important relationship questions. I found it fairly painless. There were only like 10 questions. Don’t over think it. Just go with your gut.
“LIKE” 3 PEOPLE: This was weird for an old married woman. But maybe if you’re single, it might be kind of fun. You are presented with random faces+usernames+ages+cities of people in your area who are also on OkCupid, and you are supposed to “like” three of them. It doesn’t mean you have to talk to them–the site just wants to get a feel for who you are drawn to. Actually it’s probably a mathematical algorithm. Like how Netflix recommends new shows to you based on which ones you already liked. If I were single, I would go for guys who looked semi-mature, funny, and I don’t know… like someone I could talk to about whatever? For this step, it was actually easier to pin-point which guys I did NOT like. Weird pictures or weird usernames, or too young as compared to my real age… 🙂 A good picture of his face was super important. I liked a few of the creative ones, but really just a straight shot of him smiling at the camera is best.
MATCHES: So after I picked my 3, it said it was “matching” me. The page following was more faces of guys, plus this at the top: “Men who are interested in women ages 23-50 located within 50 miles of me online within the last month.” I liked that it narrowed it down for me to guys within my region and also guys who had been online recently. That made it super easy and weeded out a lot of guys for me. I didn’t like that the age range (23-50) was so large. I had put my age as 32, so I was thinking it would be more specific to that age. 38+ seemed too old, and 26- seemed too young. Anyway. As I was scrolling down looking at the guys, it also showed which ones were online. This was another plus. It made it super easy to maybe send a message to someone and start a conversation online. And finally, on each profile was % match and % enemy. I am guessing it’s just based on the 10 questions and perhaps also which types of profiles that person has “liked.”
CLICKING ON PROFILES: You can click to “like” different profiles. If you don’t like a profile, you can also elect to “hide” them. You can also click on the person to read more about them. I clicked on a random guy to read his profile. It included this:
Basic stats–age, height, education, etc.
My self summary
What I’m doing with my life
I’m really good at (on this guy’s I loved he put “being a smart ass”)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
On a typical Friday night I am
The two of us (includes stuff we both say we liked… click on it to answer questions and then see his answers)
Words that describe (more or less spontaneous, more or less outgoing, etc)
I loved all those aspects it covers, because I feel like I get a good sense of who the person is (as long as they have filled out their profile to answer these different things about themselves). There is also an option to “browse invisibly” which is helpful if you want to keep a low profile (though you have to pay for this option). Also, there is a “you may also like” at the bottom where other profile pics show that you can easily click on.
REACTION SO FAR: I like the site interface. It’s pleasant to look at, easy to navigate, and just overall fun to click around. Everything just makes sense where it is placed. I like most everything about how they ask questions and try to match people–especially that it is super fast and easy. This took me only a few minutes to sign up and then get going on the site. If I was looking for love, I would happily spend a few more minutes filling out info about myself, liking other profiles, and adding pictures to my profile.
UPGRADE OPTIONS: If you decide to pay you can take advantage of different options. Check out the sites A-List Basic and A-List Premium pages for details.
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