Up until now, you’ve put yourself out there…. but only sort of. You’ve gone on a few dates, but your phone and social calendar have been stagnant too much for too long. You yearn for more. This is your time.
This is YOUR summer.
Your summer to meet more people and go on more dates than you ever have before.
Wanna have the best summer you’ve had in a long time? Make this your summer for more dates with these 6 smart tips:
- Join a popular dating site.
Just bite the bullet and do it. Set up your account with a funny screen name, punchy text that grabs people’s attention, and upload several awesome pictures of yourself. Then–and here is the biggest part of the tip–don’t just wait for others to message you. Make a goal to message at least 5 people per day. Just a quick Hello and something specific they would be interested in (like that guy who is all about hiking, ask him what his next hiking goal is). If only one or two respond, then great! Keep the chat going until you feel ready for a date.
- Talk to 7 new people per week (in person).
Dating is really a numbers game. Sure, you can just wait for “the one” to find you, but how exactly can that happen? The odds are against you unless you talk to new people. Just be friendly. The more people you talk to, the more you’ll be connected with more people who just might know your one. Set a goal to talk to 7 new people per week, or one per day. This could be customers at your place of work, people at the grocery store while you are shopping, a friend of a friend at a party, or talking a walk on a popular pathway. Summer is the perfect time to do this as the weather is nice and people want to be out more. Did you notice how I didn’t say “ask them out”? This is just talking. You are being social and expanding your circle. As you do so, more dates will come naturally.
- Host a party with food.
Summer is all about relaxing with a drink and some grub while enjoying the fine weather and company of others. Set up your own party in the backyard or at a park and invite your friends–with the understanding that they also bring someone you don’t know. This is the perfect setting to get to know new people, because you know people in common, and who doesn’t like food?
- Set up “pre” dates.
Dating is scary for a lot of people. It’s so official, and some people just aren’t ready to be official. They like casual and no commitment. So try to meet people where they are. Set up “pre” dates. What are “pre” dates? It’s just a casual, “Hey let’s meet for coffee,” or “I’ve got free tickets to this thing, we should go together.” Summer is a great time for this, as there are more casual things you can do like music in the park or a gallery walk. It’s easy to say yes to those kinds of things because they don’t require a lot of time, thought, or emotion. Most important, keep your attitude as causal as possible.
- Be bold.
If you like someone, tell them. And ask them out. If they say no, then you can move on. If they say yes, then it’s a win-win. You’ll get more out of your summer if you are bold and go after what you want, rather than sit back and wait for something that might not ever happen.
- Hire a professional.
There is no shame in delegating the match-making to someone else. We get it–you’re busy and doing it on your own hasn’t really worked so far. You just want to hand over the job to someone else. Why not? It’s definitely worth a try. It’ll save you time, plus if you don’t get a match, you can blame them for it.