So there’s your online dating profile, sitting there, gathering dust.
What’s the deal?
You spent a lot of time and invested the emotional energy in signing up for the blasted thing in the first place. Then, you uploaded your best photos and toiled over what to write.
So why aren’t you getting very many views?
Here are some tips to help increase viewing, which will hopefully help you find the man or woman of your dreams:
- Use effective words.
Apparently, specific words matter. In a study of thousands of dating profiles on eharmony.co.uk, researchers discovered that certain words attracted more views and messages. For women, the words were sweet, ambitious, thoughtful. For men, the words were physically fit, ambitious, perceptive. Also passion ranked high for both.
- Change your photo(s) every week or two.
Did you know that your online profile can grow stale? Even if you have picked a stellar photo of yourself, it’s old news after a week or two. If it’s been a while, upload something new. You’ll appear fresh and exciting and attract some attention. Also, choose a good balance of photos–some close ups of your face, some body shots. You probably should have between 5-8 photos. Too few and people will pass on by, and too many and they won’t spend the time to look at all of them.
- Appeal more widely.
Sure, your favorite band may be an Indie group not very many people have heard of, but that doesn’t mean you should list it on your profile. Instead, pick a band more people are familiar with and like. You can always talk about music when you get more personal, and suggest your new online friends listen to your favorite Indie group. The same idea goes for other likes/dislikes and other areas of your profile. Yes, you are unique, but you want to be relate-able, too.
- Be more general so you come up in more searches.
In many online dating sites, members can cast searches depending on area, body type, and etc. If you are too far off in one category then you could be left out of many searches. If you’re sort of in between on a category, such as body type, then choose the more average selection or selection most people would choose. Definitely don’t lie about who you are, but when you are down the middle then go with more general terms.
- Be proactive.
Many people are simply waiting to be contacted. So in order to get more views, you’ll have to get out of your comfort zone and send some messages. Depending on what you are looking for, send a few every day to see what replies come your way. These initial messages don’t need to be long. Just something like this will do: “Hey! I liked your profile, especially ______ (something specific here). I’d love to chat sometime. What do you think?” You can bet those people will be viewing your profile. If you don’t get a message back, hey, at least you tried. Sometimes people are too busy, already involved, or are looking for something else. Don’t sweat it, just keep looking.
- Have a friend critique your profile.
Another set of eyes is always a good thing. Ask a trusted friend what they think of your photos and wording. Maybe you have some bad grammar they could edit? Perhaps there is a photo they think you should change out? Maybe there is something about you that you should or shouldn’t mention? A friend can be honest and help you in your journey to get more views.