In the online dating world, “winks” are like smiles in real life. Quick little messages via an online dating site are like texting in real life. But then comes emailing.
Emailing takes everything a step further; it’s like the small talk that leads up to a real live date.
That’s one reason why moving to emailing each other is so scary. When things are still just on the online dating site, things are lighter. You’re just being flirty-flirty. No risk, but also most likely it won’t go anywhere. But emailing means you both think something could develop. A little more risk.
When you finally exchange email addresses, the biggest question is, what to write? From the subject line to the content, we’ve got some ideas to help you write utterly irresistible emails that will keep the ball rolling between you and your new love interest.
- Start with a Funny Subject Line. When you send an email, you’ve gotta make the subject so interesting and fun, your new potential special friend won’t be able to wait another second to open it. Skip the quick and lame “Hey” or “What’s up” subject lines that might not get much notice. Make them fun and funky. Be a little edgy and always unique. Something like, “100% of Americans like this email” or “I promise I’m not stranded in Algeria in need of scamming money” will put a smile on his or her face and entice a click to open and read.
- Begin Your Email Content with Something Light. Dating is hard. It’s full of pressure and high hopes and sometimes disappointment. If your email is too serious, it’ll just remind the reader how hard dating can be. Instead, go light! Tell a funny story, start with a joke–anything that tells the person you are writing to that this email will be different. This email will be fun.
- Ask Questions. People love talking about themselves! To ensure you get a response, it’s important to ask questions. Make it a list so it’s obvious, and remind the reader that you can’t wait to hear his or her responses. Questions could be anything from what they like to do, to what they dream about to what they think of this email. Be funny but also seek more information about this new person.
- Don’t Write a Novel. Keep your emails short, specifically 3-4 paragraphs at most. Most people don’t have very long attention spans, and you may lost them if you rattle on for too long. Also, this is a conversation, not a monologue. Write enough to socialite a response, and then go from there. Don’t tell all in one email… do it slowly over many emails.
- Show that You Are Paying Attention. The worst thing you could do is copy and paste from one email to another (to another potential date). It’s just bad form, and people can tell. So ditch the generic and write custom to the person you want to reach. Pick out something from their profile or something they’ve said and mention it in your email. They’ll know you were paying attention.
- Watch Your Grammar and Format. Please, please, please don’t write in emojis or abbreviations or bad grammar. It will turn the reader off quickly. Also format your email like a letter. Use the person’s first name at the top, write your email in proper paragraphs, and then type your name at the bottom. Simple but very smart.
The biggest thing to remember is that you are seeing what develops. So don’t get so hung up on every word you write–have fun, and get to know each other. After all, emailing is the “small talk” of the online dating world. Go back and forth a few times to see if it develops into a deeper conversation, and hopefully, a real live date.