If you’re like me, you’ve been on a few blind dates in your life. Sometimes they’re good, and sometimes they’re bad.
I think I’m a pretty open-minded person, and I trust my friends. So when they say they want to set me up with someone, I figure, why not?
After all, my sister eventually married a blind date. It worked out for them, why not me?
Only, it hasn’t worked out for me that way. Either my friends don’t know me as well as they think they do, or I am just really incompatible with everyone they set me up with.
There was the shorter-than-me guy with glasses who barely talked. There was the super hot guy who was a total snob. Then there was the other hot guy who I really had nothing in common with.
Unfortunately for me, going on blind dates—while an interesting part of the dating adventure—has never ended well. In fact, for me blind dates typically end up making me feel worse about my future chances at love.
So while some of you out there may be attuned to blind dating, and others maybe fare better by getting your own dates (like myself), just don’t discount the idea entirely. Go into blind dates like anything else–know the pros and cons, give it a try, and see what happens.
At the very least, you’ll realize it either is for you, or it isn’t. Here are some pros and cons of blind dates:
PRO: It’s a chance to date someone you may not otherwise give the time of day. Many of us have a certain “type” that we typically look for. At one time, I even had a list of physical and personality features I wanted. It can be good to know what you want, but it can also be limiting. When someone doesn’t fit into that mold, then many times we don’t even consider them for a date. Blind dates change that and help open our eyes a bit.
CON: You don’t know what you’re getting into. You really don’t know much about this person at all, so you are really starting at the beginning. At this point it would at least be nice to know a little bit about their back ground. What do you even talk about? Do you have anything in common? There may be a little awkwardness to get over. Just hope that you can get past that and find something to connect about.
PRO: You have zero expectations. Expectations have a way of putting too much pressure on the outcome of the date. When you know the person you can start to imagine you two getting along well, the date going great, things progressing beyond the first date… but when you don’t know the person, you can’t even imagine at all. You really have no expectations. So if you are let down, who cares? And if you hit it off, then you are pleasantly surprised.
CON: The other person could be really, really weird, and the date could go really really badly. Believe me when I tell you that this is not a far off fear to have when going on a blind date. Even if you were set up by a mutual friend, things may not go well. How does this friend of yours know if Joe has any manners? Or if he’s had trouble holding down a job lately? Or maybe they haven’t even talked since high school and he’s changed a lot or had a string of bad relationships? Before you know it, this date could end up being a completely awkward therapy session, or completely silent, or your date could be into some seriously weird stuff, or owe some bad people money. Maybe you’ll end up in an alley! Running for your life, at the mercy of Joe and his weirdness. At the end of the night you could come back home and think, what just happened? Who is that person? Yes, it’s happened to me. Well, not the back alley stuff, but at times I felt like I was running for my life.
PRO: At the very least, you get an awesome story. Sometimes having a bad story to laugh at makes all the other dates better. Enough said.
In the end, you have to weigh the pros and cons. Is the risk of having a bad blind date worth the possible reward of a good blind date? It’s really up to you to answer that question. To lessen the overall risk of things turning out badly, make sure to do this: when a friend wants to set you up, have a few questions for them first. Try to get to know more about this blind date before you commit. After all, you are open for adventure, but you’re definitely more pro than con in the dating world.