When I head to the gym, as I walk through the doors I stand and stare. I see machines and fit people galore. I honestly have no idea where to even start. I get a sinking feeling in my stomach. I am overwhelmed.
I typically head to the treadmill because I like walking, and it also has a TV attached to it, so it’s pretty nonthreatening. After a good walk, I usually feel the need to do some strength training; I’m not sure why exactly, I just know that I’m supposed to. I keep reading, “Do this” or “do that” though I’m sure who to believe or how to actually go about doing it.
So it’s no surprise that even though I feel pretty good about working out pretty regularly, I’m not really getting anywhere. I want to lose weight and tone my muscles—I even have a goal weight and pant size—but I’m really only putting in a partial effort. I have no clear direction.
It’s obvious I need help.
I realize that I should probably hire a personal trainer. Even if just for a few sessions, at least he or she could help point me in the right direction. A personal trainer could help show me what I’m doing wrong and help me reach my goals. Maybe a personal trainer could help me develop stair step goals, such as bench pressing a certain weight, or being able to run a certain distance. There is definitely value in hiring an expert.
So why haven’t I hired personal trainer yet? Because it takes money, extra effort, and admitting that I’m doing something wrong. That’s not exactly easy to do.
I think you know where I’m going with this. If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you’ll know we want to help you in your dating pursuits. Believe us, we’ve been there. It’s not easy. You probably have some goals—you want to meet someone great. You’d love to date someone amazing. Perhaps you are putting yourself out there—sort of. And it’s not really working.
I think I know how you feel.
So consider the same thing I am considering at the gym. But instead of a hiring personal trainer, consider hiring a dating expert/coach. A dating coach could help you reach your goals. Still not quite convinced? Read on.
First, you need to know what a dating coach actually does. Typically a dating coach will use various techniques to help clients improve their chances of success on getting dates and going on dates. Have you seen the movie Hitch starring Will Smith? That’s sort of the idea.
In real life, dating coaches typically talk to clients, do some role-play, give advice, and basically train clients. Much like a personal trainer would do, a dating coach will point out what you are doing wrong and help point you in the right direction. A coach will be right there to help you develop the skills you need to meet potential dates, attract potential dates, and have good experiences on dates.
Also, a dating coach will follow up with you. Be a cheerleader. See things you don’t see. Be an honest, objective third party. (Let’s face it, your friends are always on your side.) What if hiring a dating coach really works? What if with just some small changes, you have some success?
You’ll definitely have to put in some work and make some changes. Will it be easy? Definitely not. But don’t the best things in life require a little extra effort?
Though we’d like to think that finding the right person or falling in love just “happens” or is easy, is that really working for you? By putting in the effort—the right place with the right kind of help—your likelihood of dating success will soar.
It’s certainly worth a try. What do you have to lose?