Our survey of over 10,000 single women in the U.S. reveals 10 things that they desire most in a man today.
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1. Financial Independence
If a guy is unable to take care of his own finances, how will he ever manage to take care of a family? This doesn’t mean you need to have all the money in the world but it does mean you need to be responsible with money and be able to contribute equally.
Although there are plenty of women who like a man to be rough around the edges, most women appreciate a little bit of grooming and personal care. Just don’t overdo it as vanity will be deemed unattractive.
Nobody likes a negative person. You might have the worst job in the world, be struggling to pay the bills, or have an ex partner from hell. But for now, keep this to yourself. Being negative is a sure fire way of killing a relationship early on.
In 2012 a study published in the Journal of Family Psychology stated that “relationship satisfaction has a lot to do with the way partners are able to read and empathise with each other’s emotions”. Knowing when to talk and when to listen is crucial. Often women just want you to listen to them, you don’t need to offer a solution to all of their problems in the world, just an open ear.
You might be really good at hanging out with your own friends. Most of us are. Who else is going to laugh at our worst jokes? It’s the comfort zone. But a woman will always appreciate a man who steps out of that zone and into different social arenas. Social dominance and courageousness in social situations often turns the ladies on.
Women look for intellectual engagement that will parallel their own but also give light to areas of knowledge they might not otherwise have known about. Learning from your partner is a wonderful way to keep the flame alive in the long term – even if that means knowing everything about Star Trek.
This doesn’t mean just in the bedroom, it means passion infused into every aspect of life. It’s so crucial that this study found women are more likely to be drawn to a man who’s passionate than good looking. Which is a damn reassuring thing to hear if you didn’t win ‘Most Good Looking’ in school.
8. Sense of humour
Laughing improves mood, stress levels, health in general and genuinely makes you a happier, more levelled individual. So it makes all the sense that women will seek to find a man that makes her laugh. The more laughter, the higher your chances of hooking her – it’s a very simple equation.
Women are attracted to men who strive to be the best they can be. Men who set themselves clear goals and actively pursue them possess an appealing strength of character. This is the type of man a woman will feel safe depending on – someone who knows what he wants and can make it happen.
One telling study from the International Journal of Cosmetic Science found that when men felt more confident their body language physically changed – and women’s attraction increased. Feeling comfortable in your own skin and assured on your life path will be obvious physically, which is what will attract women above all.
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