When I was dating the man who would later be my husband, I went to his house one night to hang out. He asked me if he could show me some old videos of himself.
At the time, I didn’t realize he was an excellent singer and was very talented at performing on stage. We watched video after video, and I was very impressed with his performances. But more than that, I was grateful he thought to show me the videos. Why? They gave me great insight into who he is and what is most important to him.
I felt like I really got to know him through those videos. Videos can be very powerful. Even more powerful than written words and photos.
Pictures are usually the first thing we see when viewing an online dating profile. They show us what someone looks like on the outside and offer a few clues as to who the person really is, which can then help us know whether they would be a good fit for us. While pictures simply capture a moment in time, they are limited.
Written profiles are the same way. They are a few lines of words that describe the person, which can definitely give insight, but it is limiting. What if the person isn’t a good writer? You could potentially be turned off to someone who is really great!
That’s why you should video yourself and upload it to your online dating site. Videos can be the “windows into the personality” of the person.
Videos show how someone talks and what they talk about; videos also show how someone moves and their general mannerisms. By watching a video, you get to sort of “meet” without really meeting. Pretty great, isn’t it?
Online dating is a veritable sea of men and women looking for love. But there is only one of you, and seemingly millions of everyone else. How the heck can you narrow it down to “the one” without spending months looking at profiles, chatting online, and then going on date after date only to turn up empty handed? Posting a video–and then asking for a video in return–will likely do the trick. A video will offer a better sense of the whole person, which will help you narrow the playing field.
These days, it seems like everyone has a smartphone with video capabilities, so making a quick video has never been easier. What are you waiting for?
For your video, think of a few things to say ahead of time, but mostly just talk. Be sure to set a time limit–one minute or less max–as most people will shut it off after that. Location can be anywhere, but go for something creative that expresses who you are–like the beach, a special hiking trail, etc. Dress appropriately, and just try to reflect who YOU are.
It can be scary to put yourself out there in video form. But remember what you are doing this for. While you may not get 1,000 hits, what will really count is finding the one who wants to know the real you.